Hey guys and gals!
This is a follow up post to my last one. Below are a few negative thoughts and the two positive thoughts that I said I would come up with for every negative one.
1. "My thighs are getting chubby."
- They are strong, not chubby.
- My calves look really nice.
2. "My face looks bigger."
- I have a really nice, clear complexion.
- I love my blue eyes.
Has anyone else tried counter acting your negative thoughts with positive ones? How is it going?
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Comparison
I am going to be completely honest and might also be blunt in this post. The first thing I thought of this morning when I woke up was "What the heck am I going to wear today? I don't fit into any of my clothes since I've been gaining all this weight!"
I thought about this all morning. How pathetic I was for "letting myself go" over the past 6 months. I was having a pity party all the way up until I got to work this morning, sat down and started reading my emails.
It was my very own "coming to Jesus" moment, right here in my own office.
I read this.
I guess this kinda goes back to my previous post but it's also true in the real world. Women COMPARE themselves to other women.
I find myself comparing me against women at work. "They ALWAYS look cute and like they had a million years to get ready." Women exercising. "I really should be doing that. If THEY have time, so should I." And "Oh man, if I only had a body like that..." Women driving fancy cars. "Must be nice to not have to worry about money."
So, I sat here and tried to think of the last time I said something positive to myself. It took some time, but I figured it out....
November 7, 2009. 178 days ago. My wedding day. Almost half a year ago! I put on my wedding dress and it fit but I'll be damned if my comment to myself was "Well, I look pretty good. But I wish I had worked a little harder on my arms... they would look better in this dress if they were a bit more toned."
Wow. Yup, that was it. That is what I said to myself on my wedding day. I was decently happy with the way I looked but to myself, it wasn't enough.
You guys, it was my wedding day. The happiest day of my life and I was still putting myself down.
Yah, I've been having a lot of fun over the past six months and eating out a lot and barely exercising.... I've gained weight. So what? It's not that I think I shouldn't be healthy and try to eat healthier... I should. It's just that I think it's sad that we, as women are constantly judging ourselves and judging ourselves against other women.
Why can't we just live our own lives and be happy with who we are regardless of how we look every. single. day?
So, anyways, make sure you read the link above. It struck a chord with my this morning and I am going to honestly make an effort to try and not constantly compare myself to others and try to think more positively about myself.
I am going to do my best to write down all my thoughts, both positive and negative, over the next month. For every negative thought I say or tell myself I will have to come up with two positive thoughts about myself. I will try and update you guys a couple of times a week on my negative and positive thoughts. Wonder if forcing myself to say something positive will eventually flip my thought process. Hmm... Should be an interesting little project!
Question: Does anyone else constantly compare themselves to other people? Care to share some thoughts you may have on a daily basis? Speak up people!
I thought about this all morning. How pathetic I was for "letting myself go" over the past 6 months. I was having a pity party all the way up until I got to work this morning, sat down and started reading my emails.
It was my very own "coming to Jesus" moment, right here in my own office.
I read this.
I guess this kinda goes back to my previous post but it's also true in the real world. Women COMPARE themselves to other women.
I find myself comparing me against women at work. "They ALWAYS look cute and like they had a million years to get ready." Women exercising. "I really should be doing that. If THEY have time, so should I." And "Oh man, if I only had a body like that..." Women driving fancy cars. "Must be nice to not have to worry about money."
So, I sat here and tried to think of the last time I said something positive to myself. It took some time, but I figured it out....
November 7, 2009. 178 days ago. My wedding day. Almost half a year ago! I put on my wedding dress and it fit but I'll be damned if my comment to myself was "Well, I look pretty good. But I wish I had worked a little harder on my arms... they would look better in this dress if they were a bit more toned."
Wow. Yup, that was it. That is what I said to myself on my wedding day. I was decently happy with the way I looked but to myself, it wasn't enough.
THIS should have been all that mattered!:
You guys, it was my wedding day. The happiest day of my life and I was still putting myself down.
Yah, I've been having a lot of fun over the past six months and eating out a lot and barely exercising.... I've gained weight. So what? It's not that I think I shouldn't be healthy and try to eat healthier... I should. It's just that I think it's sad that we, as women are constantly judging ourselves and judging ourselves against other women.
Why can't we just live our own lives and be happy with who we are regardless of how we look every. single. day?
So, anyways, make sure you read the link above. It struck a chord with my this morning and I am going to honestly make an effort to try and not constantly compare myself to others and try to think more positively about myself.
I am going to do my best to write down all my thoughts, both positive and negative, over the next month. For every negative thought I say or tell myself I will have to come up with two positive thoughts about myself. I will try and update you guys a couple of times a week on my negative and positive thoughts. Wonder if forcing myself to say something positive will eventually flip my thought process. Hmm... Should be an interesting little project!
Question: Does anyone else constantly compare themselves to other people? Care to share some thoughts you may have on a daily basis? Speak up people!
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